The 3 Stage Technique to Making a Better Marriage

When two people get married it is a union, an obvious merge of two people now living together for all eternity. Sometimes when two people live together certain problems (more like issues) pop up. What can happen is someone doing something that bothers them and the problem gets left undone until it builds to a breaking point. Then a big fight break out. This is just one more sign that you have a better marriage if you have more thorough & clear communication.

If you have open lines of communication and set aside opportunities to discuss these things they can be avoided completely. Having a regular meal together, at least once a day for 5 days out of the week is a great way to combat this. It is so beneficial for this exact reason. Having a regularly scheduled opportunity like that is perfect. Everyone has heard that "studies prove" that couples who eat regular meals together are less likely to divorce than other couples who do not".

Put together a trading system of complaints written down on paper and then handed to each other. Keeping time before discussing any of it with a 24 hour wait. This is a very good technique that has been proven to work for many couples and in many areas of their relationship. It keeps it a little less invasive, a lot less personal, and in a orderly systematic fashion. This helps with taking all the edge out of it, that comes with dealing with negative circumstances spontaneously.

Then after you put this in place and have had time to work on it and improve it, eventually it will become easy. You will not realize it easily though. The problems that use to spur anger and trigger arguments are stopped before they had a chance to build up into a serious issue. Stopping the problems at the root. You will just have a better marriage with a much less arguments and you will be happier.

Much of having and building a better marriage is compromise. Your a team now who has to live together, and for better and for worse. Their nothing saying you cannot do whatever you can in making it better and happier. Most successfully married couples all say the same thing. The secret to having a good marriage is being able to talk about and to talk about everything and anything with your spouse.

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